The “Alpha Male”
- Are you a high performer who, on the surface, lacks for nothing?
- Do you struggle to be “present” in your seemingly perfect life? Do you want more connection or passion with your partner? Have you lost your “spark”?
- Do you find yourself self-sabotaging despite knowing better?
- Have you wondered “if this is it”?
- Do you find yourself detached, irritable, or find it difficult to completely embrace the life surrounding you?
If you’re a driven or high-achieving man, you no doubt never thought you would seek therapy. Why would you? You’re in control. You know what you want and you go after it, but somehow there is still something missing. You’re the man who has conquered your goals, or damn near close. You find that your high-stress life contributes to resentment or detachment in your relationships, and those around you complain that you are irritable, demanding, or worse, they simply avoid you. You’re used to being the strong one and having others rely on you. Sometimes you may feel all alone. Others seek your advice and wisdom. Sometimes this can be overwhelming. Maybe you’ve told yourself that therapy “isn’t your thing.” You may even still be of the old-fashioned mindset that “therapy is for crazy people.” The thing is, even if you are used to being in charge, it is important to “unplug, download, and refuel” to work at optimum efficiency. Men’s issues don’t often get discussed because males from past generations were taught that showing vulnerability is “not masculine”. For generations, men have been raised to suppress or even brush off and deny their emotions but the truth is that all men have feelings. Ignoring your inner world does not only leads to unprocessed memories of the past that are carried forward to impact our present or future.The strong ones need support too. Whether it’s job burnout, or stress overload from feeling overwhelmed with the responsibility of family, your career, a changing work landscape, or even longing for more connection and passion within your marriage -Therapy doesn’t mean tears, although that’s perfectly ok. As your therapist, I am your confidant, a sounding board, and an accountability partner. Every so often you need to consult with a professional and your personal life is no different. Keep your relationships running smoothly, restore your peace of mind, feel validated and understood, and learn how to smooth out the rough spots. Let’s find out what’s holding you back. I can help.